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Comment from: Doug

Very Nice! Thanks for sharing your piano!

03/01/13 @ 10:12
Comment from: Dany

As an incorrigible "Type A" I too suffer from the "regret" after realizing a mistake has been made on something I did. Perfect example: I just made a book with some of the Australia pictures and, after having looked at it 100 times, I sent it off. After it was printed, 3 photos were cropped and position incorrectly. It will bug me every time I see those, but I can't let that make me forget the other ones are beautiful. Thanks for helping me remember that. And the music piece you attached: one of my favorite and you executed it beautifully.

03/01/13 @ 10:16

Did I cause this? I am so sorry. I value your opinion; I hope you know that. Just please be happy at the positive effect you have on people, places, and things. OK?

03/01/13 @ 13:43
Comment from: Kathy

I thought that might be you playing as I listened, enjoyed it very much; good article also, very true.

03/01/13 @ 13:45
Comment from: Janet

Dearest Ruth....you put just everything into perspective. Perfection for we humans will never come to those who believe that Jesus was and will always be perfect. Thank you for always conveying your good words to me! Love you!

03/01/13 @ 15:28
Comment from: Rachelle

Hauntingly beautiful playing of the piano. Thank you.

03/01/13 @ 16:38

one thing I've learned as a musical performer is that the audience is usually much more forgiving to us than we are of ourselves, as long as we give it our best shot and play from the heart. I can't tell you how many times I've walked off a stage thinking about all the clams I just laid or the lyrics I forgot and then people coming up to me saying how much they loved the show and how great it sounded. And I'm not talking the sort of polite not wanting to hurt my feelings talk, but genuine enjoyment and transformation. So what do I tell this person? "No, I really sucked and you should be just as down on me as I am on myself?" Of course not, you accept the kind words gracefully and accept that it's not all about yourself and your wrong notes and typos and whatever else we come up with to put ourselves down. It's a about a deeper connection that's beyond the notes played or words written. I'm not sure if it can be described in words, but it's more in the realm of loving kindness and radical open-mindedness than technical perfection, is my best guess. The best way I've learned to deal with mistakes is to acknowledge them and laugh out loud. Humor is the ultimate tool to bring out compassion and forgiveness in everyone.

Okay, so I wrote all this to tell you I didn't even notice your typos in your last post and that I really enjoyed it even though I didn't comment. ;-)

03/01/13 @ 18:31
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Doug: Thank you. I hope to hear your guitar and voice someday.

Dany: Your book example is perfect. I left out talk of technology-driven mistakes for fear the piece was already long enough. However, the digital world adds another element to this, such as "I thought I saved that" kinda' stuff. Still, you're so right. We sure can cloud beauty with perfectionism. I hope to see the photo book someday soon, and when I do, don't you point out the errors.

Joe: Absolutely not. You did not cause this at all. I've said it to many friends that I prefer to have errors brought to my attention so that I can fix them, because the fact remains that this becomes a portfolio of work for potential copy buyers. (I can fix blog errors, but the newsletter is different). Since I know you well, I know your intentions match this goal. So nope, you did not cause this. I caused this, and since I knew I wasn't alone in self-beating over simple mistakes, I wanted to share my inner turmoil so that we all may all break through its chains.

Kathy: I'm hoping to add music more often in future posts ... in a variety of genres ... now all I've got to do is get more "perfect" recordings down!

Janet: Yours in an interesting perspective I hadn't thought of. Do people really have such high self-expectations? Isn't every human suddenly made more perfect in the eyes of those left behind after the other person is gone? Thanks for expanding the conversation. I do think, though, this ails those who believe and those who do not. We all need to forgive ourselves for our flaws; they make us who we are.

Rachel: Thank you. It is a haunting song, for sure, and it's one of those songs I play when I'm feeling haunted by something.

Sven: What a wonderful epilogue to this post. That's a personal experience that, like Dany's, shows how we all do this to ourselves. You know, there are lots of people who DO answer, "no, I sucked," and I find myself cringing in their presence. May we all be more radically open-minded! (NOTE: Every-other-month, I send out a newsletter instead of a blog post. The newsletter is not interactive, sadly.)

03/02/13 @ 08:34